“You’ll never do a whole lot unless you’re brave enough to try.” – Dolly Parton
Previously we looked at the first two fundamental fears, the Fear of “Death” and the Fear of Abandonment. Have you ever thought about how those fears affect you?
The third fear is the Fear of Loss of Control. This manifests in a multitude of micro-fears, but most are based in the feelings of being harmed or mutilated. This is the basic terror of something invading your body, your physical space, or the integrity of your being.
Have you ever dreaded meeting a stranger in a private setting? How about the fear of dark alleyways? Do you worry about getting physically hurt? Are you scared of surgery or going to the gynecologist? All of these manifest from the same root fear – that invasion of your private space and, therefore, your control.
If you have ever involuntarily screamed when you see a rat scurrying across the floor, even if it was just a scene in a movie, then you have probably surprised yourself by this illogical fear. Have you ever wondered why? It’s probably not a thought process you entertain often; you just know it gives you the heebie-jeebies. The same is probably true for fears of bugs, reptiles, certain animals, foods, places, or people. All of these are not a threat to your being but hazards produced by your ego in a desperate attempt to control your surroundings.
Associated with the lack of control is the fear of failure. The deeply ingrained need to control all of your surroundings stops you from trying —because failure to control everything is inevitable.
Next time, we’ll look at how this fear effects the Archetype of the Wonder Woman and the advice that one brave woman (hint, you probably have her books on your shelf) gave to overcome this fear!