“It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before…to test your limits…to break through barriers. And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – AnaÏs Nin
Last time, we looked at the first of the fundamental fears – the fear of death and how it affects you. Today, we’ll look at the primary fear for the Wild Woman Archetype!
The second fundamental fear is the Fear of Abandonment. This drives your need to belong, to be recognized, and acknowledged. The fear of loss, especially the loss of love of your partner, is the quintessential poet’s lament. There have been countless country songs written about loss and abandonment, almost every modern rom-com has some form of loss or abandonment in the storyline, as well as most of the classic myths and fairy tales.
What was the curse of Snow White? She was abandoned in the woods.
How about the story of the jilted Miss Havisham from the classic novel Great Expectations? She was abandoned at the altar.
Remember what happened in the movie The First Wives Club? The first wives exacted their revenge after they were abandoned for newer versions.
Next time you have a girl’s-night-in watching your favorite chick-flicks, notice how much the fear of abandonment comes up in the story.
It is the most deeply imbedded fear in the subconscious minds of women. The feeling that drives this fear is betrayal, but the mourning, guilt, and regret associated with it are primal drives of the human existence. No fear is ingrained into our collective psyche as much as abandonment and loss.
Next time, we’ll look at the fear that affects Wonder Woman archetype!