Beautiful souls, I appreciate we are all at different places in our journey’s. Whether this be professionally, personally, spiritually or sexually who you surround yourself with, matters. There is a famous quote that loosely translates to, you are the sum of your five friends.
In other words, surrounding yourself with people that reflect who you want to be but who you truly are — is key to your personal growth and happiness. Our soul evolves over time so it’s possible that someone that we once meshed with a no longer shares the same energy.
They Never said it would be Easy …
When you surround yourself with people who are positive, and uplifting it can seem like a tall order. This is for a few reasons. One being that on a day-to-day basis, we come into contact with so many people. Therefore, people can be huge variables — can’t they?
They all come with their own unique collection of personalities, troubles, issues, good and/or bad moods.
But, it’s why we love people. Those expressing their own, unique right. And, we contribute to that energy naturally with our own innate view and perspective on life. Now, I also recognize that it can be quite a challenge to create an inner circle composed of only positive and uplifting people. Additionally, I should clarify this doesn’t always mean those who fail to see sadness or hurt. It also should not include those who avoid conflict — because there is such thing as healthy conflict, dialogue and debate.
Somewhere these became forbidden words in positivity whereas, great things come from these places too.
Providing of course that the intention behind said words is for a common goal, vision, or plan of action.
Being Mindful of who you Surround yourself with
Gravitate towards people that are aligned with your values. For me, these include integrity, honesty, inclusive beliefs and the empowerment of others. It is interesting where our journey takes us, isn’t it? You should also be mindful that we don’t need to announce to others we are distancing, or changing course.
Let this evolution happen naturally.
Surround yourself with people that will inspire you to be a better person. Those that will provide you with motivation to achieve your goals, empower you to make the changes you need and clap for your successes.
At your job or workplace, good people are often productive people. They are organized, create schedules they stick to and they aren’t easily distracted from the end goal. It is these people, who help us build on our own weaknesses through their strengths. These people too, are pivotal in our journey.
It’s important to also recognize that good does not have to mean similar.
Too much of the same can in fact, inhibit growth. You want to have diversity. It’s healthy.
Think about the people you surround yourself with ….
Their purpose or role in your life.
Are they serving your greater good?
Sometimes these can be tough questions to ask, but doesn’t make them any less important.
You can also reflect on the places that inspire you. For me, I love a library or book store — there is something about them that elicit a creative, motivated and inspired feeling. What are those places for you?
In a recent Facebook Live video I shared I speak about this topic and the importance if who you surround yourself with, and it took me to a place of reflection. This reflection was share in a previous blog you can find by clicking the name here >> Where Does Appropriation Begin and End? | Who Says?
Let me pose the same question to you as I did my Facebook audience …
Question: Can we be inspired by those who are not the same culture as us? Are we allowed to be inspired by things that are not in our ‘cultural perspective’?
My Answer: YES! A huge resounding yes.
By answering yes, this doesn’t mean to me that you should take something and misrepresent it. Instead, my thoughts or beliefs if you will, are on creating a fusion. I believe these things that although different or that don’t represent us on that level of appropriation, can in fact inspire us to reach our best self.
Consider historical events. I often reference Rosa Parks because this was such an important movement in our history. Her stand for what is right, her advocacy for something much greater than her own benefit and the lives she changed as a result are moments that inspire me (and thousands of others).
Or perhaps Ghandi …
Mother Teresa …
Whomever it is that inspires you, become familiar with their motivation
… what were their dark moments and how did they grow through them. What prompted them to stand in their power. Learn about the darkness in which their epiphanies were birthed.
Look beyond the end result. When we learn about the challenges they faced it helps things become relatable instead of believing we don’t share a piece of that power within ourselves. This process can be inspiring, I promise. And so, think of these pivotal moments and I want to encourage you to take a deeper looking into those you surround yourself with.